How many times have you heard someone say “that’s not fair, I didn’t do anything to deserve this, it shouldn’t have happened to me”?
Well it did happen…
And all too often they never do anything about it.
Too many times people focus on the bad hand they’ve been dealt, they don’t move on, it’s like time stops and they stay lost and wallowing in the abyss of their so called bad luck.
The other day I saw a man on a racing bicycle who looked to be training for an event of some kind.
Normally, I glance at fellow biking enthusiasts, smile and move on.
But there was something different about this fellow, and it took me a few moments to realize what it was…
He had a prosthetic leg.
He was moving at a fantastic pace and he was obviously focused and on a mission, he didn’t seem to be held back in any way by his handicap and it was truly inspiring to see.
We’ve talked a few times before about the heart attacks and blood clots I’ve endured, and I while those were some very tough times for myself and family, I had to accept responsibility for causing my health problems.
I never said, “Why me?”
Because I knew why…
I RECOGNIZED that I was in extremely poor health. I was overweight, short of breath all the time and had problems moving.
I ACCEPTED that my health was bad and if I didn’t change I would soon die. It was obvious I couldn’t continue living the lifestyle I had become accustomed to, and in fact, was truly amazed that I was actually still breathing even with all the abuse I put my body through.
I IMPROVISED (and/or changed) Here’s the biggie, I stopped smoking, I changed the way I ate and how much I ate and I started exercising. I changed my lifestyle.
I MOVED ON. I became an active participant in my life, fulfilling my role as husband and father. Rosemary and I started traveling, going to the theatre and just living life.
I never got a chance to talk to the gentleman with the prosthetic leg, but I certainly respect and admire him.
But there was someone who was dealt a bad hand, but didn’t let it hold him back or keep him down. I would say he recognized the misfortune, improvised and moved on.
And moving on is the most important aspect of overcoming adversity, and I couldn’t be more appreciative of my family.
It was like getting to know them all over again…
When I started training in jiu jitsu, my son started training with me and we both attained the level of blue belt together. It was really great going through the ceremony together.
My daughter and I have spent more time together helping at rescue shelters and we text quite a bit now that she lives thirteen hundred miles away.
When misfortune happens, you can’t get trapped…
Refuse to get caught in that “poor me” abyss…
Recognize what has happened, accept the fact that it did happen, improvise and move on.
Turn that negative into a positive, don’t let a problem prevent you from living and enjoying life to the fullest.
Remember never say “I’m too old” or “I can’t”… because you’re not and you can.