To establish true self-esteem we must concentrate on our successes and forget about the failures and the negatives in our lives.
Back in October when the Chief walked into the squad room and asked me to do that long bike ride it never occurred to me to say I can’t.
I immediately knew it would require a lot of training and that it was going to be a long hard task and it would require determination but I never thought no, I can’t. That would be admitting defeat without trying. And to often when people are faced with what appears to be an arduous task they take the easy way out and say, “I can’t”.
We formulated a training schedule and stayed with it. Who better to train with than a marathon runner? When the day came we were ready and we did it. He and I rode the first hundred miles and he rode the seventy miles on day two.
I received many kudos after completing the century ride. Many people said how impressed they were that someone my age could bike a hundred miles. I accepted that as a complement but I was also aggravated that our society thinks that way. I also ran into a fair share of lazy naysayers who mistakenly said, “Doc you shouldn’t push yourself that way, you’re 68 years old.” Needless to say, those folks got a free lesson about saying, “you shouldn’t or you’re too old”.
People keep telling me they can’t do this or that and most often they can if they would just get up and apply themselves.
When someone says they can’t, they accept defeat and they’ve given away a part of their life and missed many wonderful experiences.
They say, “I can’t” for many reasons; fear, lack of self-confidence, lack of self-motivation and concerned about what others will think. So let’s address these issues.
Fear. I once knew a lady who when confronted with trying something new or watching her grandchildren compete in sporting events would reply, “oh that would scare me to death”. She allowed fear to control most of her life and consequently she missed many family functions and missed seeing part of her grandchildren’s growing up and missed learning many new things. All because of fear. How sad. Robert Klyosaki said, “face your fears and doubts, and new worlds will open to you. I agree, go for it and enjoy life.
Lack of self-confidence. Why all of the doubt? If you don’t believe in yourself no one else will. And if you’re concerned about failing the first time you try something new, don’t worry, most people do fail the first time but that’s part of learning. It’s just that they pick themselves up and try again. There are many unique little sayings to inspire people to get up and try again but when all is said and done it’s up to you.
You have to evaluate yourself and decide what you want and where you want to be in life and how much you want out of life.
Self–confidence and Self-motivation come hand in hand.
“Somebody who doesn’t have a lot of self-esteem,.. Somebody who feels the need to have some kind of pep talk, who’s not self motivated.”
Consider this your pep talk and think about how much you’re missing.
Believe you can do whatever you want to do and then go do it.
Concerned about what others will think. I heard Dr. Phil once say his father would tell people that they would be disappointed at how often others don’t think about them.
So don’t worry about what others are thinking because they probably aren’t.
In closing stop saying “I can’t or I’m too old” and never allow anyone to tell you that you can’t or you’re too old.
Decide what you want to do, make a plan to accomplish your goal, and then go out and do it.
“What’s on your bucket list?”